“And whosoever believes in Allah, He guides his heart [to the true Faith with certainty i.e. what has befallen him was already written for him by Allah from the Qadar (Divine Preordainment)] and Allah is the All-Knower of everything.”
Whoever comes to Allah with a true iman, Allah will guide his heart. Often we say ‘if you didnt do so and so, so and so wouldn’t have happened.’
Ibnul Qayyim’s definition of Sabr, Patience consists of 3 pillars :
Not becoming enraged upon what Allah has decreed
Holding back the tongue from constantly complaining
Holding back the limbs from commiting sins
The hadith above mentioned the traits of the person of kufr (minor shirk)
Often we hear people say ‘Why me? why so and so happened to me?’
When we are facing a calamity, which of the three is the cause?
Because of your sins
Because Allah loves you
Because Allah wants to expiate your sins
The answer is we can’t say witch certainty which of the three is the cause, but we increase the probability that it is because of our sins because it will take us to a better path. We repent. If it is because of our sins, then it (Insya Allah) will be forgiven, and if it’s not, then you have nothing to lose. Your situation will get better.